Love to make love and want more of it when you get it? If you find yourself climaxing just as the party gets started, here are some tips that will have you going stronger for longer.
- Eat healthy
Studies have shown that men and women who are mostly vegetarian have more endurance and last much longer in bed than non-vegetarians. They have more stamina due to the nutrients they are getting from a healthy diet of fruits and veggies. Particularly sex-friendly fruits include bananas, strawberries and amla.
Exercise improves blood flow in general, and that includes to the genital region! Certain yoga asanas like the cobra pose can help, as can pelvic floor exercises, or “Kegels”.
- Pay attention to your body
One of the most common ways to keep yourself from ejaculating too soon is to monitor your excitement, and then, before you orgasm, stop all stimulation until you’ve got yourself under control again. Practising this technique helps you gain some control over your orgasm response. Pay attention to your sensations. If you’re about to cum, slow down. Slow way down, or stop altogether; give yourself a breather before starting again.
- Fancy a squeeze
When you’re about to orgasm, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response.
- Use de-sensitisers
Applying a topical spray to your penis can lessen sensation and help you gain control of ejaculation. Get the amount of desensitisation just right so that it won’t affect your partner and won’t cause issues with remaining stiff – this takes a little practice, but could do wonders for those who have difficulties with the other tips.
- Distract yourself
If you find yourself getting too excited too soon, try distracting yourself by thinking of something unrelated to sex. Temporarily diverting your attention can help you to relax and last longer. You could also pull out and switch positions. Switching around your bodies gives you some time to regain vigour and also allows you to explore new positions.
- Skip foreplay
Studies have shown that those who partake in a little foreplay action before sex make love far longer than those who don't. Devoting more time to foreplay will not only extend your lovemaking sessions, but will add more excitement to the whole ordeal. Furthermore, when you help them to orgasm first, using whatever technique they most enjoy, you’ll feel a lot less pressure to last long yourself.
- Forget to wear a condom
Condoms tend to decrease pleasure and sensitivity during sex, but that may be a good thing if you’re trying to last longer! Many manufacturers make extra-thick condoms that serve well as desensitisers, plus you’ll be protected from STDs and unwanted pregnancy.
- Smoke or drink alcohol
Smoking lessens blood flow to the penis and can leave you limp, while alcohol consumption prior to sex is a common cause of erectile dysfunction.
- Stress yourself out
Premature ejaculation is often as much mental as it is physical. So relax, be positive, and approach sex with confidence and self-respect. Fear and self-doubt may create a self-fulfilling prophecy. The less stressed you are, the more control you will gain over how long you last.
- Forget to practise with yourself
Masturbation is a great way to help build stamina and keep yourself from ejaculating too soon. Forget the naysayers – masturbation is natural and healthy and can help you familiarise yourself with your body, allowing you to recognise when you’re getting too excited and need to slow down before it’s too late.
- Underestimate the power of love
Men tend to get overexcited and self-conscious their first time with a new partner, and that anxiety can lead to bad performance. Being in a loving, monogamous relationship, however, is a great way to boost your performance in bed, as the closer you feel to your partner the more comfortable and confident you will feel during sex.